How to change habits?

Habits are formed from repeated action.  Repeated action occurs because of the thought. The thought has energy, and it has shapes and sizes in the brain cells as well.  If the thought comes repeatedly and with higher intensity, it turns into an action.  In our life, we get a lot of temptations and desires every moment.  The desires and temptations change frequently.

Sometimes they are not appropriate for society and sometimes not appropriate for our health.  We keep tending to fight that at the brain cell level.  In general, these fights/wars are negative and requires energy as well.  Going from one end that is the presence of war in the brain cells to have a presence of peace in mind, it requires energy as well. 

For the example, Mother Teresa  used to decline to go to any anti-war rally as it takes longer to go from an anti-war rally point to peace compared to going to a peace rally.  She used to say invite me to a peace rally rather than an anti-war rally.  This suggests in the peace rally, the beginning point is 0 while at an anti-war rally, the beginning point is at negative end, and we have to cross a wall negative spectrum to get to 0 and then go towards positivity.  Even though anti-war rally and peace rally have the same goal and same direction, the beginning points are different.

 When we tell any child "not to do that", the child will try to do that.  In the same way, if we keep telling our brain, don't do that, don't do that, our brain eventually would like to do it and will tend to do it.  Then we feel guilty and go again in the war of thoughts.  Instead of continually fighting that war in negative spectrum, we should start the process at 0 and teach our brain a new way to think and start forming a new habit. 

The thought process should work like this. We should tell our brain that I can eat everything, but I am going to choose to eat healthy food from now on.  In this case, the brain will not develop any tendency to fight against that thought because that thought and decision is made with 'free will'.  The child in the above example will not do anything if you just leave him alone and say he can do  whatever he wants to do.  Because we tell the child "not to do it", his brain wants to do the specific thing that is prohibited.  The same way we have to change the thought process and start thinking from point 0 and stay in the positive spectrum, and that way we can change habits. 

In our life, we should try to live in the current moments as our self is made up of three components; body, mind and spirit. As body can remain only in the current, while mind can  go into the past or future and then start worrying about either future fears or past mistakes and create negativity in the current moments.  Life is made up of different frames; past, present and future.  When the present moments go into the future, it becomes current and the current moment goes into the past frame, so as such there is no future existing.  Future is just a concept.  We can not physically go into the past or future because as soon as we try to go physically into the future moment, that becomes current.  Our self consists of three components,   Body is one-third, mind is one-third and spirit is one-third.  That makes self one.  Living life, our body is in the current moments, but sucks negative energy with mind from the past or future and spoils the current. That spoiling of the current moments goes into the future and spoils the future as well.  That eventually becomes current.  Thats the way positive thinking bring positive results and negative thinking bring negative results.

Our default status is to remain positive and happy .  As soon as we go on a wrong path mentally or physically, we feel unhappy.  As an example, if we are going on a trip and we know the exact route, we feel happy and comfortable.  However, as soon as we lose the path and go on a wrong path, we feel uncomfortable until we come back on the right path.  The same way in the current moments, we should try to stay mentally on the current path, and we should stop thinking about any thought as soon as that though make us feel unpleasant or unhappy and we should make our self aware that we are mentally on the wrong path and should go back to the correct path to make us feel happy.  In that way, our current moments will become happy and cheerful and that will lead to a positive, happy, cheerful future.